The writing of thank you cards should be a special time to take that moment to personally thank everyone for being a part of your special day and for their generous gift but let’s get real….the months surrounding your wedding is a busy and overwhelming time. You are just trying to make it through all of the preparations without losing your cool, too often anyway. Let us take some of the stress out of it for you with some great tips, wording ideas and even a reminder of those dreaded wedding faux pas….
How long do you have to get that thank you in the mail?
How long do you have to get that thank you in the mail? I don’t know about you but I thought it was a year…. Welcome to one of those dreaded wedding myths or faux pas if you will. Ideally, all gifts should be acknowledged immediately upon receiving them. Thankfully everyone understands this is a crazy time for the bride, oh and I guess the groom as well ( insert sarcastic snicker ), so let’s say within 2 weeks is an acceptable time frame. Proper wedding ‘ etiquette ‘ states they should all be out no later than 3 months upon receiving the gift but we are going to help you be so organized that you will have no problem staying within the ‘ proper ‘ time frame. So, let’s get started…
Being organized is your best friend but I am sure you already know that if you are in the middle of wedding planning. Here are some tips to keep you organized when it comes to those thank you cards.
Buy your cards early
If you plan on having your thank you cards printed it is often cheaper to have them printed at the same time as your invitations. While you are picking out that beautiful paper for your invitations make sure you remember to order extra for the thank you cards. Those thank you cards are going to need envelopes as well and I have a great time saving tip to do with envelopes so make sure you don’t forget them.
Set up a log
If you already have a system set up to organize all of the address information for your wedding guests this would be a perfect place to add a spot for gifts. When you receive a gift take a moment to enter exactly what the gift is and the date you received it would probably be helpful as well. See, so this is perfect you will have a log whether on your computer or in a binder of all of the address information, the gift and the date you received the gift right at your finger tips.
I mentioned a time saving tip when it comes to envelopes well here it is. When you are addressing your wedding invitation envelopes and have all the contact information in front of you wouldn’t it make so much sense to address the thank you card envelopes at the same time? Genius right? I know seems like such a simple thing but in the long run it is going to save you so much time, because you already remembered to get the cards printed with your wedding invitations and now the envelopes are addressed and ready to go. All that is left is the fun part of coming up with something to write inside…..Don’t worry I’ll help you out with that as well.
Now that you have your printed thank you cards and your previously addressed envelopes, all ordered from your favorite on-line specialty paper store… really you have to give me some credit that I held out this long without giving you a gentle reminder of who can take care of all the paper needs you have. You can pour yourself a glass of wine in one of the beautiful glasses you received from ….better check that log of yours to see who bought you that glass. See, lucky I made the suggestion of the log to keep you organized. Cards…check, envelopes…check, log with gift information on it….check, ok start writing. What are you going to say? Right, I promised you some ideas of what to write inside those cards. Remember when you are writing your thank you cards that this is the final but very important task surrounding your big day and it should be fun and gratifying. Don’t overwhelm yourself by trying to do all of them at one time and some of your friends may even be silly enough to suggest getting your new hubby to help out well I will leave that decision in your capable hands. I am sure that any new husbands dream is to hear his new bride say “ honey , let’s sit down and write thank you cards together! “ Might I suggest doing a few every day. This will help you keep them personal and heartfelt, overwhelming yourself will cause them to start to sound generic.
I am not going to try and make you believe that I actually sat down and wrote potential wording for your cards, because face it I don’t have that kind of creativity in me. Thankfully people have been nice enough to share them with the rest of the world that have the internet. What I have done is taken some of those suggestions and have included them on here for you. FromBrides.com are the following:
Someone gives you money
Expert Advice: Don't mention the amount but do explain how you'll use the cash
Dear Aunt Melissa and Uncle Marc,
Chris and I were thrilled with your generous and thoughtful gift. You've brought us one step closer to our dream house. Looking forward to seeing you again when we're back home for the holidays!
You don't know the person who gave you the gift
Expert Advice: Mention that you're looking forward to meeting them at the wedding
Dear Mrs. Bergen,
Thank you for the gorgeous crystal bowl. It will look absolutely perfect on the coffee table in our apartment. My mother has always spoken so fondly of you — Chris and I look forward to finally meeting you at the wedding. (I'll be the woman in white!)
You don't know what the gift is
Expert Advice: Focus on the giver's kindness rather than the mystery
Dear Jane and Tom,
Chris and I want to thank you for the wonderful wedding gift. You are such a creative, caring couple, and we feel lucky to count you as friends.
It's a group gift
Expert Advice: Send individual thank-you's but give a shout-out to the group
Thank you for the gas grill. It's so cool and high-tech — just what we'd been wanting. We're lucky to have friends who know us so well. You'll have to come by for some of Chris's famous ribs soon!
You already have one (or already exchanged it)
Expert Advice: Don't acknowledge the situation or say how you'll use it; talk about the gift instead
Chris and I want to thank you for the vintage cocktail shaker. The Art Deco design is so sleek and handsome — you are clearly a man with good taste! We're so happy you were able to make it to the wedding.
You hate it and can't return it
Expert Advice: Don't be a phony and rave about the gift, but do say something positive
Thank you so much for the fish platter. The color reminds me of the china we used for family dinners at your house, and I'm delighted to see it again! We're thrilled that you'll be at our wedding, and at having the entire Goodman family together.
The person gave a gift off your registry
Expert Advice: Mention how much you love the gift and plan to use it regularly
Thank you so much for the juicer. Chris and I have been wanting one for a while and we're already coming up with new recipes. We'll have to have you over for brunch soon so you can see it in action! We're so happy you were able to make it to the wedding.
Those are just some suggestions I found that can help to get you started, who knew there were so many different ‘scenarios’ surrounding writing thank you cards.
When writing your cards you may also want to remember a hand written note can mean so much to all of the people that helped before and during your big day. Take the time to let them know how much you appreciate what they did and how it made your day extra special.
Here are some of those people you may forget or feel like because you said ‘thank you’ so many times they don’t need to hear it again. Nothing beats a heartfelt note after all the craziness has settled to say you really appreciate all they did. Parents , siblings, wedding party, anyone that hosted a party for you, the minister or officiant, the caterers, wedding planner, florist, dj, friends that may have helped with special details that made your day, photographer. The list is going to be different for everyone, so take a moment to sit down with your partner to make sure you let those people know you appreciate what they did to help make your day a day that you will remember forever.
Important things to remember:
Remember that you are not only saying thank you for the gifts, you are thanking people for being a part of your special day. Face it without them it would have been a pretty quiet party after… You also want to thank the people that helped both before and after. Try and enjoy writing these cards because it is the final chapter to the wedding, once these are all written and in the mail all that is left to do is live happily ever after…..maybe take a moment and write the most important thank you card of all, to that amazing person sitting next to you that made it through all the craziness of wedding planning.. I bet that is one person you forgot to thank.
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